Dating a newly recovered alcoholic
No relationship will ever be perfect and every relationship – even the best ones – involve some degree of sacrifices. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.Say that you did so much drinking in your past that you actually never need to drink again – you’ve seen, heard and drank it ALL.Further explain that alcohol didn’t contribute anything positive to your life and you prefer living the rest of your life in retirement from drinking.The best part about including your sobriety in your dating profile is the relief it brings from any miscommunication about wanting to drink, though you may need to talk how you came to sobriety at some point.One of my favorite ways to explain my sobriety to new people is saying that I’ve entered retirement.If you’ve nailed down your sobriety and it’s something you want as a part of your life, you’ve most likely embraced it as a lifestyle.
If you enjoy the occasional alcoholic drink but aren’t an alcoholic yourself, can you date someone who is stone-cold sober? ” There’s not an equivalent term to describe men and women who are connoiseurs of alcohol, but they certainly exist.
The answer, in short, depends on how central a role alcohol plays in your life. Leaf through a glossy magazine, and you’ll likely come across at least a few advertisements for glamorous wine festivals or beer-lover events.
Because I live in California, which is home to endless vineyards, wine is all the rage, and it’s common for those who can afford it to head to a weekend in Napa Valley or a local vineyard for a little R&R.
At the end of the day, I find that some of the best romantic relationships are some of the least codependent.
In other words, two people can have a fulfilling, lasting relationship even if one member of the couple chooses to pursue certain activities – say, a night out over cocktails – while the other person does something different.
