Stop pretending that you don’t like someone in order to appear cool, gain power or because you are afraid.If they are not interested in you then they are not interested. Stop worrying about whether our honesty will scare them off.You do not need others to warm your bed or make you look good; make yourself look good and learn to be your own best lover. Marriages and relationships alike suffer when they are established on potential and not who you are actually getting involved with. Remember that we treat others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.Rushing into things will constantly result in heartbreak. Love is supposed to be fun and yet so many approach it like it’s a business arrangement and they are knee deep in serious negotiation.You realize that you really have no idea how to interact face to face and there is no emoji for real life dating.It’s time to put down the device and start to have more face to face interaction or at the very least talk to one another through that device. We need more communication that isn’t entirely predicated on words floating across a screen. We have all cheated, been cheated on, rejected, excluded and otherwise wounded in our past relationships. Do you know that someday you want marriage and kids? If they do not want those things do not suddenly change your tune or think that you can bide your time.
Being hurt in the past does not give us carte blanche to hurt others in the present. There is no single right or wrong way to approach dating. Very much like fashion it’s best to not follow every trend when you are navigating the dating landscape. Do they want to travel or are they more into their immediate community?These days, everything is done through a device of some sort.Entire relationships are started through text before ever meeting one another face to face.I get it, people these days are getting intimate much sooner and I’m not opposed – hell that is how 90% of my relationships formed.It is not, however, always the ideal situation because it can muddy the waters.